Beyond Brokenness: Finding True Relationship with God After Religious Hurt

Have you been hurt by religion, the church, or even other believers? Many of us, even those drawn to the faith journey, shy away from a deep relationship with the Lord because past experiences have left us scarred. These negative encounters often occur at our most vulnerable moments, leaving us declaring, "I'll never go to Church again!" or "I'll never let someone hurt me like that again."

You believe in God, perhaps even in Jesus, but you struggle to connect with the very people who call themselves Christians. You carry the pain silently, a secret longing in your heart, feeling somehow unworthy of God's love or unsure how to find fulfillment. This innate human desire to be seen, recognized, and loved is real, and it's from God Himself.

When the "Magic Trick" Doesn't Fix the Pain

I understand this pain deeply. I've had moments in my own life when I was desperate for love and belonging, completely overwhelmed by life's challenges. They broke me. I couldn't comprehend what was happening, or why a loving God would allow such suffering. I thought accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior, seeking forgiveness, would be the "magic trick"—the quick fix to pull me out of despair.

But when I did all these things, and the pain persisted, I wondered, "What did I do wrong?" My brokenness led to further hurt and even anger directed at an almighty God who seemed silent. "Why don't You speak to me, God? Why are You silent?" I cried. This was the darkest period of my life, one that took years to overcome. A friend, a spiritual guide, or a counselor would have been a lifeline.

Seeking Sanctuary, Finding Surface-Level Advice

During that difficult time, I sought the church. Having grown up in it, I knew of God, but I hadn't yet truly understood what it meant to have a personal relationship with God. I was familiar with church culture, language, and routines. The familiarity alone brought a sense of comfort, but it didn't heal me or lessen the deep pain I was experiencing.

I found that even those closest to me at church couldn't relate to where I was. I received plenty of advice and prayer, but it often felt superficial when profound healing was needed. My brothers and sisters in Christ would offer scripture or sage old advice like, "You just have to give it all to God." But as a baby Christian, a new believer, what did that even mean? How exactly do I "give it to God"? What does that look like? Will He even receive it? These were loving people, but in that moment, it felt as though they hadn't experienced the same depth of pain, or perhaps they were so far along in their own Christian growth that they'd forgotten what the first steps in faith were truly like. Maybe they just didn't know what to say.

Discovering God in the Wilderness: Your True Spiritual Growth

I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt that the very people meant to offer Christian encouragement seemed unable to help me. It broke my heart, but ironically, it was a necessary process for me to truly grow in faith and to discover what it means to have a genuine relationship with God.

I found Him in that wilderness journey. He had been waiting, carefully observing my walk, my efforts, my cries. He couldhear me, and He was talking to me, but I wasn't yet spiritually close enough to hear His voice. Through that profound experience, He's placed a special calling and purpose on my life. My mission is simple: I'm here to help new believerslike you. To be a guide, a friend, and a mentor on your spiritual walk with the Lord.

I'm not a pastor or a theologian. I'm simply someone with a heart for God's people and a responsibility to share what I've learned on this faith journey. I want to help you explore Christian basics, understand Jesus Christ explained in a personal way, and navigate Christian living with true Holy Spirit guidance.

Don't Give Up! Your Journey Starts Here.

If you're carrying the weight of past hurts from religion or people, please know: God's love is unwavering. His desire for you is a personal, healing relationship, not a repeat of past pain. He's waiting for you, eager to show you how to experience His peace.

Join me on this walk. Don't give up on the Lord. He is waiting, and I'll be praying for you as you take your next steps in discipleship and discover the profound joy of Christian growth with Him..